happiness – The Self-help Blog by Teen

You will feel good even if you force a smile. Smiling and laughing releases many stress relieving, anxiety relieving, happiness hormones that makes you feel good instantly!

Here is an interesting story.

Mr. Rowland is never with a smile. His romantic life, social life, business life were all failing.

He read a book by Dale Carnegie ( a great self-help author). There, he was asked to smile always. He made it an oath.

Next morning, he straight went to the mirror, “Rowland, you will have to remove that scowl forever”. He greeted his wife with a warm smile and said “Good morning”. Her reaction was bewildering. She hugged and kissed him.

He smiled at the liftman. He smiled at the reception. He smiled at his colleagues. He smiled at his boss. He smiled everywhere. Everything became light. Even the huge stress at office. He even smiled at the stress. Amidst total failure of his business, he found happiness.

Everyone around him also felt light and hearty.

So, next time you are under stress, just smile. It’s so fun to smile without any reason!

About 500 years ago, a Buddhist monk lived in a city. Every morning, he would go to the nearby bazaar. And guess what he would do? He would start laughing. Loudly. Very loudly. He would laugh so much that he would fall down. No reason. Just true laughter. Everyone around him thought he was made and they would also start laughing seeing him.

Later, in a book he wrote that he laughed to give people their happiness, which so lacked then (the king was demanding sky-high tax).

And you know what? It is proved that laughter prevents cancer!

Another story here—

Prem is a salesman. He wakes up at 6 am and goes from house to house, selling his products. He returns home at 10 o’clock.

He is always scowling and frowning at his customers. He is irritated by them.

Just get in the customer’s shoes. How would you feel about a frowning salesman knocking at the door when you are a-busy-as-Satan?

He failed to sell his products.

A friend of him advised him to smile—smile always.

You can guess the results.

Even employees at call-stations are told to smile as they talk (yes, over phone). Because smiling while talking causes a difference in voice which can feel subconsciously.

We are biologically attracted to smiles. Seeing someone smiling sends a signal—YOU SMILE TOO.

So, next time someone is offended, flash a meek smile!

Charlie Chaplin’s moustache quote “I have many problem in my life, but my lips don’t know them”.

So true. Read it again. “…and most of all, love of what you are doing”

When I was 9, I aspired to be a professional singer. Day and night, I would dream about throwing concerts in major cities, coming on TV shows, my Youtube channel getting 100k likes. I would work in movies and be a worldwide sensation.

Now, I laugh. Really, so immature (but its ok at that age). I was so sure to be a professional singer. But, though it says that nothing is impossible, it is impossible for me. And for every guy like me—who dream.

A study says that for being perfect at something, at least 24 hours of effort should be put into it per week for 10 years! You have to spend shit-tons of time and effort into something for perfection. And to be the singer of my dream, the amount of time I will have to spend is more than my life-span! It would take 50+ years of constant effort to fulfil my dream. Now, I am 15. After 50 years of effort, I would be singing breakup songs at 65.

But, there is a problem. Even if I make constant effort for 50 years, I would never be a singer. Why? Because I would not make the effort in the first place.

To unpretzel your mind. I do not like singing. I only like the fame and riches as the result of 50+ years of effort.

That being said, I am at the foothills of Mt. Everest. Thinking about the summit, but not climbing much. So, I do not put effort, but only like to enjoy the results.

If you want to be successful, you should not want to be successful in the first place. Confused? This is the ‘Success Paradox’.

You should want to do that thing (put effort into it), in which you want to be successful, for being successful.

So, if you want to be successful in life, think again in which aspect you will shine.

I like writing. I do not want to be great famous writer. I just want to write. That’s it. Simple.

I just write for the sake of writing.

By this mindset, I can be a successful writer. But not a successful singer—as I don’t sing for the sake of singing.

So, you must not want to be successful, rather you must love outing effort into that aspect.

You should love climbing and forget the summit—you should wish that the summit never comes—so that you can climb forever—this is your love for climbing (and you will reach the summit, obviously)

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You should Smile all the Time!

The Success Paradox