Sometimes, you are really confused. What to do? And what not to? Many if us are super-confused in romantic relationships (hey that’s me). You want to make your relationship better. You want to connect with him/her emotionally—you want to love him/her madly and want to make her/him love you madly. If you think your relationship is a mess, don’t fret. Here are 2 really great advices (really, read yourself).
Fight (sometimes)
Yeah. I mean it really.
Let, your girlfriend be a selfie-holic. She loves to look good, and you love her looking good (obviously).
Before going out, she goes to the bathroom. You wait. One hour. Two hours. She does all the what-girls-do-there things and asks you about her look. Sometimes, she looks very, very beautiful. Sometimes, she looks like your unshaven bestie. You love to say her beautiful when she is, but hate to say her looking bad when she literally looks like a clown.
Most of the guys in this situation will nod there head ( that she is beautiful), just to avoid conflict.
But I will say it. “You just look like the neighbour’s pug”. She hates it. Again goes to the bathroom (oh no). You again wait for an hour. Or, some f-words gets spitted on you.
This is very important. You are being honest. This builds trust. She/he is not going to trust you if you lie. F-it. Be you. He/she is going to like (and trust) you for being honest. Actually she/he gets quite attracted. Try it sometimes and see for yourself. This builds trust—most important for any relationship. So, next time be you and be honest and fight. The above was a silly example, conflict in greater things also.
Conflict is not only good, but necessary for relationships.
Its okay not to talk and ignore
Suppose you are very busy. Suppose you don’t have the mod. Oh oh the soccer match is starting, or your friend texts you. Then you ignore him/her. Its totally okay. And like fighting, necessary. Because it shows your honesty which builds trust.
Nowadays, I’m very busy for our coming exams. I have not talked with my girlfriend for days. One night, I got time and found her online. Hurray! I said hi. She replied with my ex’s new video clip (pissed off). Really. I just said good night. She send a ‘nooo’ and a crying emoji. But, I texted with my bestie instead—because—its totally okay (and necessary).
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